For some time in the past, there has been a bitter battle between two groups that take this issue very seriously: those who support the importance of books on human development, and those who believe that they are just hoaxes to deceive the innocent and do not give They bring real help. Cure their problem, but only temporarily relieve their pain, and soon its effect will wear off, as if it doesn’t exist, and it may even make the problem worse. And before you identify which group you belong to and get involved in this conflict, we must first review some key points.
Books have the power to change our lives in ways we never imagined, if we allow them to go beyond mere sources of entertainment or pastime, and we choose the right books, and this applies to all types of books. Many people turn to human development books for positive encouragement or to address issues, such as anxiety or fear of speaking in public.
This is fine for a while, until the battle intensifies, war is declared on such books, stones are thrown, readers are vilified as ignorant or naive, but where is the truth of this battle, is human development a cure or just a temporary residence?
(Science) Human Development
Giving the title “science” to human development is one of those things that we don’t know the date of its birth, especially since our universities don’t recognize it and we’re not there to study it. Some even consider it a science, dividing it into several parts: the field of social human development, the field of economic human development, and the field of political human development.
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It is worth noting that these training courses are not per se related to human development, but to prepare for instructors in any field, such as TOT certificate and PCT certificate, which is strange because if you want to become a trainer in a specific field, other than being a Don’t you need other courses in this subject other than a good lecturer? ! Well-prepared content is one of the most important things they advise us in demo sessions.
So, human development is not a science, it is completely different from psychology, the results of psychology are obtained through experiments and research, and it often takes years to come to the correct conclusion, while human development depends on the individual Subjective experience or rely only on one’s subjective experience. individual, who is the author.
Humans evolve between fantasy and reality
Many human development books, especially recent ones, contain encouraging steps and phrases that claim they will solve your problems, but there is no evidence that the author himself has been exposed to such things before, nor that he applied Take these steps and prove them to be successful on yourself or even on others.
I see these books as something that sells fantasy to the reader, there’s no need to talk about them or care about them.
As for the other category of human development books, which I prefer and find very useful, it gives the reader an insight into the life of the author, the difficulties he faced and how he faced them and resolved them. His questions are probably similar to the ones that prompted you to read this book from the beginning.
As useful as these books are, you can’t let your guard down because you can easily fall into yet another illusion. If you don’t know the red line exists, and cross it, then you have a bigger problem than you wanted to solve in the first place.
The author is giving you his personal experience, so understand that the book you are reading is simply the experience of someone in a different life than you, someone in a different situation than you, So how can someone who doesn’t understand your life or situation give you advice and help you manage your life?
Some people take everything mentioned in these books as given, definite, undisputed laws and start applying them in their own lives, but when the solutions don’t work for them, they Get frustrated, or worse, they don’t even try to apply the laws. They’ve learned, so the time they spend with books is like taking painkillers. Your pain, it makes you feel better, but it doesn’t really heal you. Conversely, adding it without real treatment adds a new disease to your life.
I must stress that this is not the distaste for many people in this day and age of human development books and smearing their significance with delusions and gibberish, especially considering the idiots who claim to know everything and sully some real purity. Useful book, but what you have to do is understand when to use painkillers and when you need real treatment.
use pain medication correctly
If you are in severe pain, you should take pain medication, but don’t rely on it without seeing your doctor. This is how you should treat human development books. You should be careful not to use it as a temporary pain reliever when it has no real effect. treat. These words of encouragement may motivate you, but application is the real medicine, and it is very important to remember two things:
1- Focus well, take what is good for you, take away what is good for you, and pay for what is harmful to you or not commensurate with your life and situation; everyone’s experience is different, so don’t be depressed by it.
2- Apply your chosen knowledge; As stated earlier, rigorous theoretical knowledge without practical application is of no importance or value.
If you read a book on “Overcoming Anxiety”, try to apply the lessons gradually, etc., in any other subject, otherwise your knowledge will be only consolation to your problems and no real solution, Soon its effects and memories will fade from your memory.
Human Development and Islam
Human development books can sometimes contradict Islam. Especially the translated books, make it clear to you that by taking these tried and tested steps, you are sure to achieve success, but there is something that has to be rooted in your mind, that is the will of Almighty God, which may have something to do with you wishes are contradictory. desire.
Rest assured; your efforts will never be in vain, even if your goals do not succeed, God will open a better door for you than you ever hoped for, so we are commanded to fight. May he say in peace:
“Work for what is good for you, seek God’s help, do not be helpless, and if something happens to you, do not say: If I have done this or that, but say: God has ordained, what He wills did too,” as if it opened the work of satan. “
in conclusion
In the end, when you have the facts, you may have chosen the category that suits you, but it is worth noting that the conflict between the two categories is so trivial that a sane person would not notice it.
Yes some books are full of trivial core stuff and I don’t condemn readers for ignoring them, but some books are considered autobiographical by an author who conveys his experiences through steps, which may indeed help you, and this The lesson is for the reader to choose the right book to accompany him and benefit from it.
Millionaire Frank McKinney described one of the books as a turning point in his life, and he wasn’t the only one.
Human development, while not really a science as we explained earlier, can still be helpful at times. I don’t think the problem is with the human development books themselves, but with the reader’s ability to choose what to read. A man benefits only from what is good for him and avoids what is bad for him.